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What is the ulterior motive of Gaslighting?

Gaslighting – Is it a new product of the modern world?  What does it mean actually?  Are there any specific signals to help us recognize it? Why is it important to learn it right now? and Have you ever been gaslit before?

“Your narcissistic abuser withholds information in a conversation and replaces it with false information. That’s Gaslighting.” – @therandomvibez

What is Gaslighting? 

Gaslighting can be defined as a process that someone is doubting about his or her own thoughts, beliefs and perceptions. He or she keeps questioning themselves till exhaustion. In other words, he or she is self-trapping due to the deceptive words or expressions of emotional abusers.

Who can be your Gaslighter?

According to my observation, Gaslighters are everywhere; they can be your parents, your relatives, your friends, your colleagues, and your acquaintances. Some of them unintentionally and accidentally become a gaslighter while others don’t.

Why do people gaslight others?

There exist quite many implicit reasons that account for why people gaslight others. Among them, it is as as clear as daylight to recognize the two most common ones below:

  • Firstly, I can tell that gaslighters do their best to manipulate someone’s thoughts so that they can win the negotiation and achieve a certain purpose of theirs.
  • Secondly, Narcissists like gaslighting others since it can make them more and more important or superior in others’ eyes.

How can you recognize that you are being gaslit?

Actually, if you are able to fully aware of what is happening around you or what people are treating you and logically analyzing the ulterior motives behind each action, event or story; you will easily recognize that:

  • You used to be told that you were too much sensitive or thinking too much; and/or dealt with some disgraceful statements like “It’s just a joke! Calm down!”, or “You think too much huh”. If this happens again and again; as a result,  you will think that you have been exaggerating things, won’t you?
  • You used to be gossiped or told what people were gossiping about you behind your back. At that time, you were engaged into their words ; and of course, 90% of us will act in the way they expected.
  • You used to be convinced with a lengthy explanation or excuse to prove that what evidence you had was not totally true; then they diverted the conversation and continuously changed the subjects  until you  got distracted. At the end, you completely forgot or shifted to “self-persuasion”.
  • You used to be told with loving words but the words didn’t match with the actions. Sometimes, you had doubts whether or not it was true or wrong and that stuff was dwelled on. You got stuck with a dead end, and then you might say that I had overacted.
  • You used to be blamed for acting differently or changing to some extent; also they gave an excuse that they wouldn’t treat you like this or would choose another way unlike what you did to them. It was your fault, right! I bet that you felt guilty!


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