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The Valued Lesson about Completion

When the sun rises again, a new day comes with new opportunities, challenges, and hardships. However, 8 billion people worldwide will deal with a new day in various ways.

According to my observation, if possible, we can classify them into 4 groups below:

  1. New day – let’s start something new.
  2. New day – let’s repeat our boring routines.
  3. New day – let’s follow and confront what others want and satisfy them.
  4. New day – let’s see what will come will come.
  5. New day – another day to finish what we have been working on.

What makes the differences among these types of people? – This idea flashed in my mind!

As I used to share in the previous articles, there is nothing absolute. Therefore, in every single new article, I would like to include more practical and hands-on experiences to help my readers and subscribers see more and more dimensions of life.

Recently, I heard a few stories from my students, friends, and acquaintances. They shared with me their own stories about what they had dealt with, got stuck with, struggled with, and even got fed up with.  Beyond each story, I could depict a vivid and lively picture of what was going on. Surprisingly, when I connected all the stories, I found a very essential hint that not many of them could notice or figure out!

I am now mentoring 3 students simultaneously. They are not college or university students; they are an office worker, a small business owner, and an experienced freelancer. Throughout the mentoring sessions, I learned that 3 of them represent 3 out of 5 types of people I aforementioned.

My first student told me that: ” I cannot find the true values of my life. I am worried about what I am doing. I do not know whether or not I should change myself to follow others, or I shouldn’t care about others and just do what I want. Every new day of mine always comes with worries and concerns and it ends with the scene that I deal with deadlines and demanding people around me.”

My second student desperately confided his thoughts to me: “I don’t know why I’m always coming up with new ideas during my presentation. I love the ideas but it makes my speech not go well. I plan my speech in one way, but when I present my ideas, I go another different way. New things seem to be a half friend and a half enemy.”

My third student is flexible and witty; he usually comes up with new ways to cope with me in every lesson. One day, at the end of a lesson, he shared his thoughts with me: “Oh, I see what was going on. The problem is that I do not pay much attention to what I have learned or done so far. I usually flexibly deal with it rather than seriously live, work, or play with it. I see that I cannot make any significant progress because of the attitude of What will come will come.”

Besides my 3 students, many friends of mine are falling into the trap of Boring Routines. They just went to work, did the same things, fought against the same problems, and achieved the same results over time.  One day, they stopped doing what they had been living with for years and wondered what could be the real ulterior motive of their lives. The answer seems to be hidden from them and they look desperate indeed.

What can you learn from the cases above? What is the root cause in each of the 4 different mentioned contexts?

1. The ones who always start with something new: They can be very creative and innovative people. They might well understand clearly what they are doing, and possess both academic and practical knowledge throughout the years of working in their industries. However, these people will never satisfy with themselves because new things continuously cross their minds. As a result, they often do not have enough profound thoughts about what they did.

2. The ones who always follow others and dramatically question themselves: They are the most miserable ones on the earth. They are living a life of a mind slave. They are gradually killing themselves and destroying their true colors day by day under the social pressure of BEING GOOD.

3. The ones who are flexible and prefer to see what will come will come: These are considered the cunning foxes in the human world. They can survive and quickly adapt to strenuous situations. However, they sometimes cannot reach the highest level of their potential. They get stuck and even get fed up with the events preventing them from pursuing their expectations and ambitions.

4. The ones who are suffering from boring routines for years: It is said that there is a high percentage of this type in life. These people prove that being molded for years can lead them to desperation and boredom. Nothing new to acquire or conquer is such a pain that they have to suffer every day. Sometimes, they do want to change their situations and conditions; but they even don’t get any small opportunities for it. They are supposed to get back to the old trail again and gnaw at the dullness of their lives.

WHAT MIGHT BE  THE WAY OUT OF THESE BURNOUTS?

  • When people always come up with something new but the old things they have been doing are not completed, they won’t have any results to compare with their plans.
  • When people just follow & confront what others want and then satisfy them, they can find that the journey of satisfying others will be never completed. In the long run, it can cause them exhaustion.
  • When people are too easygoing with themselves, they cannot find the highest satisfaction in everything they have done. They have the feeling of incompletion.
  • When people carry out boring routines day by day, they cannot see the end of that life cycle.

INCOMPLETION is the major key in these situations. It might directly or indirectly affect what is going on in our daily lives. It brings us worries, concerns, confusion, desperation, and even boredom.

If we see things and events surrounding us as projects, we are supposed to complete one project before moving on to the next one. Even when you are handling one long-term project, you still need to finish one phase and then switch to another phase of the entire process.

It is easy for us to catch Incompletion everywhere and every time, and the most excuse is all about the outside factors instead of the problem owners.

To complete one thing, doers should strictly follow the steps below:

  1. Have a plan with measurable, achievable, and challenging objectives
  2. Set a clear course of actions
  3. Direct yourself and manage tasks; ensure that two of them are perfectly aligned with each other
  4. Control the results by continuously comparing them with the plans and strictly measuring the results and the invested resources.
  5. Back to setting another interesting plan for yourself!

That’s what I learned from The Theory of  Scientific Management!

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